So, I learned a long time ago to beware of people on pedestals, even if I’ve put them there. I think it has to do with ‘trust’. Even if the pedestal isn’t very high, the fact that one is on it brings a set of expectations along that dance around you and keep you in a constant awareness that at any moment, it can all go down.
And it did!
What seems to hurt the most, is the trust, or now, the loss of trust. The relationship will never be the same – it’s sad.
Perhaps my expectations are too high, too unrealistic, too rigid, but it seems to me, however, that honesty, truth, sincerity and ethics should be the foundation of any footing. I prefer those to be my base, but always at ground level. I certainly don’t want to be on anybody’s pedestal….just trying to stay grounded, balanced, upright, and in some control of my ‘faculties’ is enough.
People are only human, and I realize that. But, this (being human) should not act as an excuse – or a deterrent to an offered apology. So – my trust is shattered, my respect is lost, and my desire to spend any further time in that space is gone….and I’m done.
If a pedestal shows itself in your path, step on it and go right on over it. Say ‘thank you’ and ‘I appreciate the invitation’.
Just a thought …